Thanks for all your replies but maybe I did not explain exactly what I meant.
The whole point in lilo -R was that you could override your default only for the next boot.
It was like telling the bootmenu what to do in the next boot.
On my computer Windows is the default

because
others use it too. I can not change the default because
the other users wouldn't understand.
Because of this I have to wait for my computer to reboot and make a selection in grub each time I boot.
Using lilo I was able to tell what to boot the next time and then reboot from the commandline.
I think this is not available in grub.
Dries.
You can have it fast, cheap or correct: pick 2