steveL wrote: ... it doesn't matter what age you are; anyone can be a dicq
NeddySeagoon wrote:Its called 'a senior moment' when you get to my age :)
Lol.
I'm still at the point where I can call it a "bad-hair day", but I'm looking "forward" to the time when I can chalk it up to senility; soon.. ;-)
steveL wrote:Trust me, that's not unique to the young, only to assholes; and plenty of older, should-be-wiser, folks are complete assholes on a regular basis.
krinn wrote:And when an old is thinking and acting like young, you'll get the king of ass.
Yeah; no fool like, nor as stubborn as, an old fool.
The older you get, the more you find yourself thinking that. ;-)
I try to keep that in mind (kinda a self mantra): you're always an asshole for someone; and typically because things are well done, when you think someone is an ass, magically that "someone" think you are the ass :)
Oh sure, it's usually a mutual feeling.
I try to tell myself "there's always going to be at least one person making an ass of themselves, and if you don't know who it is, it's probably you."
Been re-reading Robertson Davies' "The Deptford Trilogy" (starts with "Fifth Business"); he talks about myths and archetypes, which I find quite interesting as so much of our culture derives from stories, and indeed memory is effectively a narrative.
Slightly rambling, this relates to cognitive dissonance, and how really our conscious is more a post-facto rationalisation after we've made the decision already, not the decision-making process itself; in effect the story we tell ourselves, should we ever need to justify ourselves to our peers. Again, a narrative; although we do have veto, most of the time we just go along with whatever our body's already decided.
Getting back to this point ;) it seems to me that if no-one else has taken the/an asshat line, someone will just for a joke, ie to alleviate the tension. In effect fulfilling the archetype, hopefully of jester, but sometimes of angry boy that needs to piss somewhere else.
OFC none of that is any good wrt sociopaths, but they're good at appearing "normal" w/e that means; so if the prevailing ethos is toward collaboration, they'll at least go along with it on the surface. Sometimes that's enough, given enough human-beings (for whom compassion and empathy are not an act, but triggers for a pain-reflex) who are aware of the game.
Unfortunately, more often it's not, given that tendency toward lazy thinking/dismissal and a vague sense that "someone must be taking care of it", which characterise
cognitive dissonance and lala-land.
Sociopaths tend to be single-minded, and appear like they have focus and direction, which they do. Just not on the aspects which make life worth living for the rest of us, for
we are social animals. (There's a book called "The Social Animal" though I don't recall the authors; a bit full of themselves and how great consumerism is, but interesting read.)
So they do quite well, usually, and ofc now the whole setup is a
sociopathic fraud on all of us.