I installed a nice, near bare-bones KDE environment with the split e-build, via:
... and it installed less-than 30 software packages, as opposed to the more-than 200 packages that a kde-meta installation would have installed. After that, I installed a few other KDE packages that I needed, and the final outcome was a nice, lean KDE installation that starts up fast, and is very responsive. And best of all, it only has the stuff that I need / want included in it.
KDE is kind of cool that way, it has its base system if you will, that runs just fine if it and only it is installed, and then you can install other KDE-specific programs and services on top of it that do various things. The more stuff KDE has going on though, the more system resources KDE as a whole will use. Me, I like a nice small installation with only the things that I need in it, no reason for the windowing interface to be doing things in the background that you don't need it to be doing.
I advise that you first look over your "USE" flags, and the other information as a whole in your /etc/make.conf file and make sure it's using the optimisations you want, and then do a KDE base installation using the split e-builds, and then go about the business of installing the individual KDE apps you wish to use.
[bold]CAVEATS:[/bold]
Installing KDE via split e-builds takes a long, long, long time, even the minimal 'startkde' option. Be prepaired for that. Also, you will have to search out and install other KDE programs individually, which takes lots of time and effort as well. For instance, after I got KDE up and running via the method I outlined above, I couldn't watch DVD's in Kaffeine. I had to emerge 'kdemultimedia-meta' in order to be able to watch DVD's. I also had to install 'arts' seperately, for listening to mp3's and vorbis, and the accessibility and kdeartwork packages ... Things of that nature. It took me an entire afternoon to do it all, but it paid off in spades because my KDE environment isn't bloated, and it's not running all sorts of crap in the background that I don't want / need / use/ ... and I had plenty of beer to drink while it was grinding away compiling the packages so that helped too LOL
Good luck!