yes... i know this is sad

-=GGW=- $ol!d $n4>|e · Veteran Joined: 12 Apr 2004 Posts: 1591 Location: USA

ok, so.. advice from forums.. dun need any threads from cokehabit saying i'm already fkd :lol:

never really had a relationship before and somethin tells me the one i just started isn't right. It's my senior year at highschool and a junior that i really like, really likes me. Seems nice eh? Main problem: I have no clue why she likes me. I figured it was just infatuation, which i also don't get, but its been 4 weeks and she still seems to like me. I can't really carry on a conversation with her that well, although it seems like if i made a knock knock joke she'd laugh. She's always signed online, seems like we should talk through aim a lot, but we barely get 1 half conversation up a day, seems to actually go better in person. She just told me she liked me over aim, i said i liked her too. And then there was no talking after that for about a day, because there isn't that much to talk about. Tommarows first day of school since that convo over aim. Should i be worried as hell that i can't find a reason for her to like me or just sit back? A little hard to try not to screw something up if you don't know what there is to screw up. :lol:

Closest i can think is that we both like games computers and anime, and she seems to really like it when i say techie stuff and things in l337...

tsunam · Developer Joined: 23 Feb 2004 Posts: 343

sit back, relax, breath and go with the flow. Understand that the relationship will end eventially, and there will be others. Beyond that just don't think about it too much. Don't avoid her and just act normal. She likes you for who you are, and a lot of times as guys, we don't get that

just accept it.
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ChristyMcJesus · Apprentice Joined: 02 Oct 2004 Posts: 184

Is she cute?

-=GGW=- $ol!d $n4>|e · Veteran Joined: 12 Apr 2004 Posts: 1591 Location: USA

/dev/random · Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 2:56 am Post subject:

It's high school man, just go out with her. My girlfriend and don't have all too much in common, but things have worked out pretty well. I've been with her for over two years now, and in terms of what you can hope to accomplish with a high school relationship I'd say we've been very successful.

Saa · Tux's lil' helper Joined: 03 Jul 2004 Posts: 138

Chill out and just cruise man. Nothing will erk your flow more than stressing on woulda/coulda/shoulda.

monkeyhead · Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 3:22 am Post subject:

Go for it... worst case you end up learning a bit about relationships, best case you have a damn good time with the girl.

She likes you - you like her. What's the problem? It's worth a shot, right?

Attraction has little to do with common interests, it's a lot more primal than that. My wife and I share little in common, but we have a damn good time together, even if she does rib me for my geeky tendencies and I tease her about her anal-compulsive behaviour.

Nicom · Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 3:26 am Post subject:

You don't have to be perfect for a girl to like you, just not horribly messed up. It could be just chemistry. Why do you like her, maybe it's similar reasons. But really, don't think about it too much, it'll stress you out needlessly, and will generate zero productive results. There's nothing wrong with not knowing why. And if your overly nervous with her, try to think of it as a positive, it means you like her.
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Sloden · Posted: Mon Sep 26, 2005 6:48 am Post subject:

I dont see the problem? You like her. She obviously like you. She likes anime and stuff?Ask her if she wants to come over and watch Spirited Away or something - on your laptop (if you have one). Watching anime doesn't get much more intimate than that. And lastly: Realize that you, as a boy, has nothing to say in this process of courtship. It's her game. Might as well accept it.

G'luck!
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-=GGW=- $ol!d $n4>|e · Veteran Joined: 12 Apr 2004 Posts: 1591 Location: USA

w3r7! Thnx for the support and advice, working out perfectly. Thnx again!

feliperal · Apprentice Joined: 09 Mar 2003 Posts: 168

Man you must be a dork...Okay, sorry for being cruel. But hasn't anyone taught you how to get a chick. Even if you don't like the girl, if she is someone goodlooking, it is a perfect opportunity to get some bush. In addition, most girls will come to like you if they see that your are somewhat sociable and aren't too much of a lame ass loser.

Try inviting her out. See how it goes. Don't be nervous. Be confident, yet a little bit brash. I would take her out for some activity that is fun, but not too imposing on her. Trying to invite her to dinner and boring her with your nerd tales wouldn't be such a good idea. Nor would a film be so good. After a few dates with her, I would break all communication by ignoring her. Drives the bitches crazy. Now the ball is in your court. Do not show any type of emotion towards her. Heck, setting up a date and forgetting about it, than calling her afterwards and making some excuse really works (i.e. like in Magnolia). If you execute your strategy correctly, this bitch will be begging for you cock.

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curtis119 · Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 3:54 am Post subject: Re: yes... i know this is sad

stormcrowley · Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 5:16 am Post subject: Re: yes... i know this is sad

pjp · Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 6:36 am Post subject: Re: yes... i know this is sad

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bszente · Posted: Thu Sep 29, 2005 10:17 am Post subject:

It seems, that you're in love man... Don't be afraid... face it.

gentooJunkie · Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2005 7:16 am Post subject:

curtis119 · Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2005 3:54 pm Post subject:

OK people, let's stop calling each other dorks and jerks please. kthks.
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jakamaka · Posted: Fri Sep 30, 2005 4:29 pm Post subject:

C'mooon ! You've found a girl that's nerdy AND cute

GO FOR IT !!
The ones I bump on to are mostly mindless blond chicks who haven't got a decent word to say or ugly metalchicks all dressed up in black with purple colored hair or something..
Hell I can't even talk to my friends about computers, everytime I come up with words like "chips amd" or even just "windows" they give that strange look.

japhy · n00b Joined: 05 Aug 2005 Posts: 30 Location: Berkeley, CA

Don't you have anyone else to talk to about these things?
Where shall I start. . . If you can't find a reason for her to like you then she has something useful to teach you. The best part about being a geek or awkward or not having the body of a greek god is that it automatically screens out the people who like you for the wrong reasons.

If you can't have a real conversation with her that's another matter, but time together tends to deal with that and you'd be cheating her and yourself if you didn't try and find out.

It may be that something's not right, but in my experience thinking that something's not right is the greater part of something not being right. It may be that she's liking some imaginary form based on you but the odds look good from this limited viewpoint. If your main problem is really that you can't see why she likes you just realize that there are things she sees that you don't and she may not be making them up.

And a pet peeve/rant to finish it off: Don't try to have real converstaions AIM! Plain text and all the emoticons in the world in the hands of a master can make up maybe a third of what you can communicate with a real person with a real face to smile and frown and do all of those things that great writers spend their whole lives trying to describe in text -- the infinite vocabulary of body language, the expressions of a real face, looks, little movements, touch(, words written with a pen by a hand), reaction and ... and.... and now I'm doint exactly what I'm ranting about; trying to use words to . . . and I'm not even Dostoyevsky. I'm done.